The Six Life Skills
of manipulation during a child’s most vulnerable years. Instead, we need to help
children build their own internal motivations and moral compasses by teaching
them how to develop the six life skills so they can make positive choices in life.

Would I Want to Work for Me?
So now you know the first two questions I always ask myself:
1. Will this move a child farther to the left on the “This Way or That
Way” form or farther to the right?
2. Will this punish a child for not having a skill, or will it help teach a
child one of the six life skills?
Here is the third and final question I ask: If I needed correction or redirec-
tion, how would I feel if my supervisor used a strategy like this with me? I use
a shorthand version of this question, as follows, when I am thinking of using
a strategy:
Would I want to work for me?
Try this little exercise to better understand what I’m talking about. Think
for a few minutes about the best job you ever had. And then think about the
worst job you ever had. Think about the workplace atmosphere for both jobs.

Think about your supervisors for both jobs. Make a chart like this and fill it
with words and phrases that come to mind.

Worst job/Worst supervisor
Best job/Best supervisor
After you have filled the chart with your initial thoughts, ask yourself these
follow-up questions:
• How did you feel in each situation when you made a mistake?
• How did you feel in each situation when you did a good job?
• How did you feel about going to work each day?
• When you reflect back to each of these situations, which emotions
come to the surface?