1. Attachment and the Growing Brain
In an elementary school for
which I provided an after-
school staff development ses-
sion, the kindergarten teacher
had a private question as
we left. She was unsure of
the way her aide had dealt
with a situation earlier that
afternoon. A boy, frequently at the
center of a troubling erup-
tion, had aggressively forced
his way into a small group playing quietly in the block area. When they resisted
his intrusion, he threw a block at them and knocked down their creation.
The aide snatched him away and chided his actions. She sternly made him sit
at an empty table off to the side, where he cried and fussed loudly.
When the lead teacher returned to the room upon hearing the wailing and
learned of the situation, she wondered if this was the answer to his poor social
skills, because it happened every day, sometimes twice. I suggested we ask our-
selves what might be at the base of his limited social skills. I reminded her that
children who had weak attachments missed out on the neuro wiring that allowed
them to develop relationships and the skills to build friendships. Understanding
that, what might we do to strengthen his skills, and would being isolated help?
Might he be interpreting being isolated as a rejection?