after being absent for a few days. Here you can recognize that she is
adjusting to being back in the classroom with smiles and no tears.
Giving her a hug or patting her on the back and telling her how you
are noticing her growth and self-confidence may encourage her to
continue to separate from her family members more easily. You can
tell her mother at pickup time what happened in the morning so
that she can also celebrate Kassandra’s progress in separating with no
tears. If Kassandra does have a hard day again in the future, you can
remind her of this day and her success or invite her to draw or paint
how she is feeling to help her express herself in other ways.
Learning about How Children Cope with Difficult
Situations When you care for children, you see the ways they cope with the
ins and outs of difficult times throughout the day. Getting along
in a group setting is hard work for them and involves developing
problem-solving skills. Read the following observation note about
Corlyn, and write down the strategies she uses to find comfort when
she is upset.
Corlyn (1 year, 3 months)
When Corlyn rubs her eyes and starts to cry after eating
lunch, she walks to her cubby and reaches for her diaper bag.
She looks in the side pocket for her pacifier. She takes it out
and sticks it in her mouth. Then she finds her blanket on her
cot and goes to sleep.
Using information for assessment Corlyn independently seeks
out her pacifier to comfort herself. She knows where it’s located
and shows initiative to get it. Referring to developmental checklists
shows that she has excellent coping skills for her age level.
Using Information for planning Anticipating Corlyn’s difficult time
after lunch and having her pacifier or a stuffed animal nearby may
prevent her initial crying. Supporting her when she does get her own
pacifier with positive words and a quick hug may allow her to settle
down into naptime with adult comfort as well.